As some of you may know infertility can be genetic. And so it is with my case. Many of the women in my family have struggled to conceive, or to stay pregnant once they do. And many of them were able to have children either because they had the children when they were younger before their disease progressed, because of a lot of hard work, or it was a blessing from our Father in Heaven.
About a year ago after trying to get pregnant for 6 months, I realized being over 35 years I probably needed to go in and get evaluated.
The initial doctor I worked with ordered a bunch of blood tests, an x-ray with dye, and after all of that came out and told me I had unexplained infertility. Jaren had some tests done too, and he did not have any issues. Well, you know me, I am very curious and want answers.
So with this indefinite response we decided to see another doctor last August. And due to some advice from my sister in law, decided to go in for exploratory surgery. I waited to do this until October and underwent the procedure. They found endometriosis and a chocolate cyst. They burned much of it away and drained the cyst. After the surgery the doctors advice was that it was now my job to get pregnant withing two months time. Well we scheduled an IUI and it didn't work out. It was not a pleasant experience. An upon scheduling the next one I was given the run around because the nurses were telling me to do one thing and the doctor was telling me to do another. When I went to visit her to get a clear explanation of what I needed to do and complained about the miss communication, the doctor said to wait a month and keep in touch. Another inconclusive response.
Finally in February we went to the Utah Fertility Clinic. We received definite answers (stage III endometriosis, scar tissue on the fallopian tubes and ovaries) and through further study we knew that we couldn't afford the treatments prescribed both emotionally and financially. And we prayed. We prayed a lot. We got our answer to adopt through LDS family services. We are also looking into becoming foster parents. Of course we are also open to conceiving on our own and I have started acupuncture treatments and have found a fabulous book called "Making babies" There is a link on line to take a test that will give you further information on your fertility type if you are interested and then it gives suggestions based on your specific situtation: I am a combination of stuck and tired
http://www.makingbabiesprogram.com/questionnaire/.
If you are interested for your own benefit..
“Making Babies is a marriage made in heaven. The best of western medicine
combined with the yin-yang approach of the east. The end result? Restored fertility and vibrant health. Lovely.” — C H R I S T I A N E - N O R T H R U P, M.D., author of Women’s Bodies, Women’s Selves |  |  |
On a more spiritual side, I know that God can do all things. If we were meant to have our own children naturally he would make it so. There is a higher purpose to all that Jaren and I are going through at this time. And our future children were meant to come to us through a different path. If we/they didn't have this experience we would be different people. In order for us to become the people God wants us to be we need to go through this. I don't understand why. And the great thing is that I don't have to understand everything to trust in the will of God.
Regardless of what is to come we know we are supposed to adopt.
Love,
Emily and Jaren
